THE QUEEN OF NO!

I know that we are probably supposed to blog about how pleasant we are or how we don't ever get mad..blah blah blah. Not today. I'm human. I'm mean at times. I can tell it like it is and not bat an eyelash. Is this a flaw? Quite possibly. Am I ashamed of it? Not usually. Is it innappropriate sometimes? Well, yes. Is it necessary at other times? Uh. YEAH. Hence why I don't feel ashamed to defend myself or others for that matter. Some people have never heard the word no in their life; and sometimes they need to. Everyone has always been scared to hurt their feelings or step on some toes...well not this someone.
I've never had a problem saying "NO." Even when I was little. I love to say "Yes"....it's fun to say it and I like to make others happy. If you need me..I will be there in a heartbeat. Loving and helping is what I do best. HOWEVER, I learned early on in my life ..that if you spread yourself too thin, let others walk on you, or let people get away with murder....then you'll have an unpleasant life. Who wants that? Things can be prevented (ie. awkward situations, overbooking, stress) by just one simple word: "NO" or if you are feeling nice three simple words: "NO THANK YOU".
I have a guilt complex about a lot of stuff...I say "I'm sorry" more than anyone you'll ever meet...I'll say sorry even if I'm not the one who is wrong. (Harmonizer). I just don't have a guilt complex about N.O. I think that if you enable people to treat you a certain way....nothing will stop them the next time. (If you give a mouse and cookie, he'll want some milk to go with it: if you give a moose a muffin, he'll want some jam to go with it)......you get my drift! HELLO!! THERE IS A REASON AN AUTHOR WROTE THOSE AS CHILDRENS BOOKS! To teach us at an early age...to not let people take advantage of you, be rude to you, ETC. Give (inconsiderate people) an inch..they'll take a mile. I've learned really quick in my life who I can roll out the welcome mat to and who I need to be cautious around. I have a sweet sweet friend who sometimes gets flustered becasue she say's "Yes" to A LOT OF STUFF. and at the end of the day she is so tired and frazzled. She used to ask me; how do you manage you're time so well....Simple answer; "I learned to say No." Give it as a gift to yourself. Don't overuse it or it will lose it's effect. But DO IT ...PLEASE! It will change your life! :) Happy Friday!

OH and P.S. Friday Favorite:
Wee Brie Cheese (can find it in the gourmet food section). YUMMO! Have eaten it with crackers and grapes ..everyday this week for lunch! My new fav!